Nowadays, there is a great lack of patience in
everyone in the family or society - we can see it if we look around, and we can
see it even if we look at ourselves.
People lose patience very quickly and commit various
crimes. In the present era of mechanical and busyness, although there is an
opportunity to enjoy many benefits, the time/opportunity to refresh the mind of
people has decreased. Jealousy-violence-greed-hate-selfishness sometimes causes
anger.
Mechanical entertainment is also playing a special
role here, but people do not give importance to this harm even though they
understand it.
Mechanical entertainment gives rise to a kind of
addiction - despite getting proof in various tests and observations, they are
unable to quit due to addiction, and that's what causes various setbacks, from
anger to accidents - and then - from that, depression, boredom, all these
things are consuming us!
Every religion has repeatedly warned about the 'sixth
sense'. 'Sixth sense' is the enemy within human. Which can bring about his own
destruction at any time. Anger is one of the six senses.
Moreover, many major disasters in the world are caused
due to the uncontrolled nature of this six sense - this is known to everyone.
Although the matter is not easy, it is true - that if
you can control anger, it is possible to stay away from many daily mental
stresses, and the deadly diseases that arise from mental stress, such as heart
disease, diabetes, high blood pressure - you can easily stay away from their
clutches. To lead a healthy life and fit life, we have to defeat this
enemy.
Anger is not a disease, it is a natural emotion for
every healthy person, a natural element of a healthy mind. But this emotion is
the cause of many diseases. This emotion ranges from slight annoyance for some
reason to intense excitement, anger that burns to the point of losing one's
senses.
Although this emotion is placed in second place among
human emotions, it is a common and normal emotion in psychological
interpretation and physiological activity. But if this "emotion"
cannot be controlled, various problems arise.
The damage to oneself then becomes magnified in
problems such as hypertension.
According to the Health Journal - Chris Aiken, a
psychiatrist at West Forest University in North Carolina, USA, said in a study,
'The risk of heart disease doubles within two hours of intense anger.
Expressing anger in a constructive way is good for the
heart.
Another study by the Harvard School of Public Health
in the United States shows that intense anger increases the risk of stroke
(blood clot or bleeding in the blood vessels of the brain).
In addition, various studies have shown that excessive
anger affects 'immunoglobulin-A' and reduces immunity. Anger can also cause
various mental illnesses including extreme anxiety and depression. Anger can
sometimes be the cause of major disasters on earth, which we have seen since
the beginning of the world.
Uncontrolled
expression of anger -
In order to prevent anger from being expressed in a
harmful and uncontrolled way, American scientist Charles Spielberger said in
his research that anger cannot be completely suppressed, nor can it be
completely suppressed.
Because, suppressed anger can lead to various mental
and physical problems - such as depression, high blood pressure, irritability,
personality problems, etc. The expression of anger should be constructive,
assertive, but not at all aggressive.
Therefore, the problem can be solved only when an
angry person is aware of his own anger. The matter that is causing anger should
not only be seen from his own perspective, but also from the perspective of
another person, in this way, the matter can be presented in a different way, the
expression and behavior of someone's anger can change. This means that anger
cannot be completely suppressed. A German study has shown that those who
suppress anger, keep it in their minds, their heart rate increases, their blood
pressure fluctuates, and depression occurs in them.
Experts
say about ways to control anger -
1. In
this complex world, there is no shortage of people who provoke anger with foul
words and actions, but there is a shortage of people who provide comfort and
support.
2. Therefore,
to keep yourself healthy and adapt to the environment, everyone must make
themselves capable of saving from all evil.
3. There
are many among us who can cause incidents like destroying the lives of others
through fun, but they do not admit that it is wrong or do not have the ability
to understand the wrong. So be careful in doing this simple fun. Everyone needs
to understand the limits of fun or amusement - we need to learn.
4. This
requires healthy-effective social skills, which must start from the family. If
the elders of each family are skilled, the next ones will automatically become
skilled. Everyone must gain from family-society-and experience, and the younger
ones must also be helped so that they can also achieve this. It is not right
for anyone to reach a decision quickly. Alternative thinking strategies must be
learned.
5. The
mind should not make a one-sided decision just by seeing a single incident. One
should understand the context and surroundings of the incident before
expressing emotions. Of course, this requires a lot of patience. Therefore,
everyone should practice patience from childhood.
6. Any
issue should be explained with logic.
7. There
are some techniques to calm yourself down when anger arises, - You should relax
your body a little. You should take deep breaths, and repeatedly say to
yourself some constructive short sentences, such as 'It's okay', 'Calm down'.
8. It
is said in the Hadith that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah
be upon him) said - If anger arises, you should sit down if you are standing,
lie down if you are sitting, and stand up if you are lying down.
9. Walking
in the fresh air every day is beneficial and taking deep breaths during that
time keeps the mind calm.
10. Spending time with family and relatives
occasionally and going out with them also gives mental peace.
11. Parents should never show anger in front of
children.
12. It is good to keep some time to think about
yourself. If you organize what has been done or what needs to be done
throughout the day in your mind, you will have the opportunity to complete all
the tasks smoothly, which keeps the mind good.
13. The
habit of smiling and being happy with little helps you to be good with yourself
and others.
14. Any kind of drug use is harmful, because
taking drugs reduces the ability to control emotions.
15. Mental problems like depression, obsession,
personality problems, conduct disorder in children and adolescents, etc. can
cause abnormal anger. Therefore, one should seek the help of a specialist
psychiatrist.
If
we think about it another way - there are experts for any kind of disorder. And
aren't we ourselves enough to protect ourselves from common anger, emotions and
other such reasons? For example -
a. Boredom
in our daily life is a very common thing. It can make us irritable. We have to
find a way to get rid of this boredom. No one is exempt from the
responsibilities of daily life. So we have to find some time for ourselves.
During this time, we can do whatever
we love to do. Anything from painting, sewing, gardening, reading books can be on
this list. Even hanging out with friends can be on this list.
b. Everyone
should stay away from fear while doing something according to their own mind.
Fear keeps people stuck and this mental inertia provokes various inactions
including anger. For example - someone dreams of running 40 miles, or someone
dreams of writing a novel.
But first, do not dismiss it as
impossible because of fear. It is not possible to run 40 miles in a day or
write a novel in a day. If you try a little bit every day, one day you will see
that you have run a mile. In this way, one day you will complete 40 miles, and
the novel of the person who wants to write will also see the face of success.
In this way, any task of fear will
become successful one day with daily efforts. Fear will also run away. The mind
will also become calm. Anger will be removed from anything that seems to be an
obstacle.
c. Many
of us blame ourselves when we fail in doing something. Then anger comes and
fills us. So we have to move forward as needed. We have to practice moving
forward step by step.
Be it studies, housework, office
work, business, even love. Everything in our life is a task, and in everything
there is success and failure. Failure has many colors.
After starting the work, if we set
small goals and move forward, eventually the whole task will be completed with
these small achievements. This is success. This is the medicine to cure anger.
Healthy environment is the path to a healthy life - A healthy environment is
very necessary for living a healthy life.
d. Don't
get upset about a boring life - we need to develop the ability to protect
ourselves from the clutches of boredom and think about our own achievements,
which makes us feel good. This is how we can motivate ourselves.
## If we can control anger, control jealousy -
selfishness - lust, and transform grief into strength, the rest of the evils of
the sixth sense will simply disappear, and we can be saved from many
life-threatening problems caused by them - this is absolutely necessary to lead
a healthy life.
